taking on a challenging slave

A few musings…

As one who’s taken on the role of “slave” - and i’ve been a difficult one at times -  here are a few reflections…

If a Master decides to take on a sufficient, intelligent sub/slave, then He/She can expect a number of things. A few things that come to mind right now are:

Be prepared for interesting dialogue about the D/s situation. This can be a challenge when one prefers  a sub/slave who can think for themselves.

Subs will take advantage of “loopholes”. This was brought home by silverdreams at http://nakedconfusion.blogspot.com  when she posted a humorous blog on this topic. She sees it as a bit of a game to out-loophole her Master. It had me smiling as i recognized how i’ve done some similar things. (shhh…don’t let Master S know)

Subs will observe a potential Master’s reactions to seemingly ordinary situations…lost baggage…rush hour traffic…minor irritations. If the potential Dom angers easily, then it isn’t safe to allow Him/Her to lead. i can’t put it more bluntly than that.  

Then there will be times we put up a bit of a fuss while following – that resistance rises every now and then. A Master’s firm yet gentle guidance will win us over. It then becomes easier for us to go willingly.

Our training may take a bit longer than it does for “doormat slaves” due to us working it out internally, but once we step through it, we’re fine.

We will test our Masters and Mistresses on many levels…plan on it.  It’s part of the process and we will use these opportunities to take a pulse of the relationship or situation.

We will also test your patience. We’ll throw curveballs. We’ll question the “why’s” and “wherefores” of the existing situation (hopefully in a respectful manner). This is because we don’t consider it do-or-die to be a sub/slave, preferring to make sure the timing and personalities mesh.

We take steps to remain emotionally healthy and appreciate those Doms who value the same.

Sure, we can be a lot of work, but at the end of the day you’re rewarded with a sub/slave who’s an independent thinker, and STILL wants to be by your side…or wherever you want to place us.  

These patient Masters/Mistresses will have a slave who not only serves them well, is a treasured companion, but also has enough spunk to keep things interesting, challenging and fun.

i hope to not always be difficult for Master S, but my one wish is that His patience doesn’t wear out anytime soon!