Giving up of self and ego – that’s the spiritual path for submissives. Much time has been spent in this realm of thought, and i believe that’s where we have the opportunity to make the greatest gains. There are times when i still just want to blurt out my own opinions or thoughts, but i’m getting better at examining the times to do so. Master enjoys the banter and doesn’t inhibit me from sharing, but i’ve become much more conscious especially as the use of “Sir” and “Master” forces me to take a look at my verbal patterns.

This awareness is in line with many spiritual teachings (which i’ve crudely encapsulated below):

Eckhart Tolle – Be still and remain present.

Pema Chodron – examine your need to be heard, and laugh at the passing of these thoughts as they flow in and out of our bodies.

Tao –  In order to achieve peace, we have to realize our strength lies in serving. (i love the water verse listed below, and aspire to remind myself of it daily… i recommend Stephen Mitchell’s translations of it.)

Verse 66

“All streams flow to the sea

because it is lower than they are.

Humility gives it its power.

If you want to govern the people,

you must place yourself below them.

If you want to lead the people,

you must learn how to follow them.

The Master is above the people,

and no one feels oppressed.

She goes ahead of the people,

and no one feels manipulated.

The whole world is grateful to her

because she competes with no one

so no one can compete with her.”

Also found within the above verse is the insight that a “good” Master doesn’t make others feel oppressed. i have to admit that i don’t feel oppressed by Master S, but rather take pleasure in His leading.