Well, deciding to be Dominant was one thing.  What to do and how to do it was something else.  I have looked at numerous web sites, and read alot of material, not to mention the fact that I have fantasized and dreamt of a time like this occurring, but now I was actually faced with trying this lifestyle for real.  How to approach this was going to take some soul searching, and a tremendous amount of honest communication. 

First of all, I must say that to have desiree trust me enough to have me as her Dom is quite an honor.  First of all, to look at us, you would never think in a million years that we would be a couple who would explore this lifestyle option.  We are both professional, well regarded in our fields, articulate, funny, outwardly loving toward each other in public,  fun loving, and fit.  Not to say that others who explore this life are not the same, but we do not fit the caricature that the general public thinks of those who are “into S and M”.  To meet us you would think that we are just your everyday, average couple of 40 somethings who act like they love and respect each other.  When I met desiree, I never picked up on the submissive vibe.  Honestly, she had not been that sexually active due to her past relationships, so I wasn’t even sure if we would be sexually compatible (I am very sexual).  But we had a great first date, and have been virtually inseparable ever since.

So when I thought about this, I needed to put this type of lifestyle into a proper perspective.  desiree and Myself came up with a list of who she is, and how I think of her.  It goes something like this, and the order is important:

desiree, who are you?

1)  desiree

2)  your best friend

3)  your queen

4)  your partner

5)  sexy and sensual

6)  your slave

7)  a nymphomaniac

8)  your slut

9)  a nudist

10)  an exhibitionist

11)  anything you want me to be

That’s the list.  In one of desiree’s posts she will explain what each item on the list means and why it is in the order that it is.  Basically, it is important to note that we would still be together whether she was my submissive or not.  She brings alot of great qualities to the table and has tremendously improved my life.  So the items before the “slave” entry are there for a reason.  The fact that I get to be her Dom is truly just icing on the cake, but this icing is indeed very sweet and very rich.    With these thoughts in mind, I now had to decide what was important to me in this Dom/sub relationship.

I know that being a Dom carries a great responsibility. For that, I’m grateful to Master S for his careful ways and willingness to take me on. Along with that comes responsibility for me as well.

I am Master’s…

1. desiree – a complete person who comes to Him with full appreciation for who He is.
2. Best friend – without a deep friendship, we couldn’t communicate as completely or even have as much fun together. This is the basis of us – we trust each other to follow through and hold each other carefully at all times.
3. Queen – I stand by His side and though He looks to me for counsel, He has the final say in all things.
4. Partner – we collaborate on this life we’re building together. Both of us are invested in making it as good as it can be.
5. Sensual and sexy –Master takes great pride in my appearance and He also enjoys my reaction to sexual situations. i am multi-orgasmic and love pleasing Him.
6. Slave – His word is law. One of the cardinal rules to obey is that His word is law.
7. Nymphomaniac – i crave sex with Him. Many times, all He has to do is talk in His low “purr voice” and it drives me crazy. After all the time we’ve spent together, one would think the urge would dissipate…but it hasn’t.
8. Slut – Master prefers me to get “down and dirty” at various times. Dressing in a provocative manner excites him, and he enjoys knowing that while other men look at me…he’ll be the one taking me home.
9. Nudist – i have a nice body. Master enjoys being able to touch any part of it at any time.
10. Exhibitionist – Master prefers that I keep my body in an unclothed state whenever possible. This includes when we’re traveling in the truck or taking a walk outside.

And…

     11.  Anything else He wants me to be.